How Our First Loves have Changed through the Decades

Dear First Love,

It really doesn’t matter how many times I fall in love, you’ll always own a diminutive place in my heart. At times, maybe out of pure despair, I would just close my eyes and cherish my righteously untainted affection for you and would laugh at my foolish, nonsensical behavior.

It’s true, isn’t it? We all have been there, and made some weird, funny blunders at those early adolescent and teen years of our life. Out of the blue you like someone so much that you could see your entire future with that poppet right there flashing in front of your eyes. We all have created that sort of fantasy/drama movie. Every other love after the ‘first’ is secondary. Despite the diversity of circumstances, we all can relate with the innately feelings and charms.

Falling in love for the first time is awkward, kind of hulking and overly sentimental but is still the most celebrated of all.

There really are butterflies running through your stomach and you see some momentous alteration in the temperature around you.

The primitive first love stories are quite different from today’s neoteric first love stories. If we take a peek at the adolescent time of our parents we feel gruesomely remorseful for them. Since I am way too devoted to this subject I had to do my research… And the results are scenically dramatic but alluring too.

Falling in love during 70’s or 80’s was startling. They used to write anonymous letters and would somehow send them to their beloved, hoping for a concealed reply.

Most of the time they had to walk alone with a broken heart chanting some lamented music. Even then, there were the ones who would mope and dream in silence, too afraid of a heartbreak; the concept of unrequited love is eternal, eh?

If Cupid did favor you during that time, then some iconic romantic songs were your bestie and there were also some romantic instrumentals mystically playing in your backdrop which only you could listen to.

Love during the 90’s was no less than Aamir Khan’s notably renowned song “Pehla Nasha”… I mean raise your hands if you’re a 90’s kid and you didn’t sing this song with a comb in your hand standing in front of a mirror. Those wonderful telephone, analogue mobile and prank call days… When you had typed countless text messages and dialed the same number over and over again. (Yes, we all had our analogue stalker phase!)

Waiting outside schools with some red roses or blubbering over ‘Titanic’ for the umpteenth time. 90’s love was certainly ‘clueless’ yet quite amazing.

Fortunately for millennials, everything got effortlessly easier. They were all born in the evolution of dating apps and all the major social networking sites like Facebook and Instagram. Nowadays you are now only one Facebook search away to redeem all the information, tidings and data about your beau. Sounds perfect, right? But this modern era love is a lot more fragile by deluge of emotions and sentiments. Millennials are anxious, dreary and unobserved to a greater extent. Delusional as we might be, sometimes the “love of your life” may only last seconds before someone else pulls at your heart strings.

Fallen in love? Well, just ask Google ‘how to make someone fall in love with you?’ and you’ll be hit with thousands of results.

Let’s get real, signs and symptoms should be limited to diseases only; if one could fall in love using “helpful tips” off the internet, relationships would never fail, because we would be cautiously impeccable in our approach, far from authenticity.